We’re completely out of the old house. Turned the keys in and everything. I sincerely hope we don’t have to do any moving again for a long, long time.
The new house has a small deck built into the side yard. It’s all by itself and has a view if the neighbors would cut their tree down. I’m sure at one time the view was awesome.
Before we were even moved into the house, Devon claimed the deck. He has a hookah and likes to smoke with his friends a few nights a week. I used to smoke. At some times I smoked a lot. And it took me about 14 tries to really kick it. I still will have the occasional clove cigarette one or two times a year with friends but the day in and day out of smoking is gone and good riddance. It takes so much to be a dedicated smoker.
Anyway, I go back and forth over whether I’m being a good mom or not when it comes to the hookah. It’s fun to go outside and talk to Dev and his friends. I see him more now than I used to and when he moves out on his own in a few months, I’ll see him hardly at all since he’ll undoubtedly move the hookah to the new house. But am i reinforcing a bad habit? Am I telling him that I think smoking is good? I’ve even tried the hookah myself. Am I setting a bad example?
Devon is over 18 so in my mind, it’s his choice whether to smoke or not and I’m glad it’s not cigarettes. I’m glad it’s an occasional thing and legal as opposed to him and his friends drinking beers or something I’d have moral and ethical qualms about. But, I still worry. Knowing what we know about lung cancer it seems wrong to facilitate and/or participate. Except I don’t really feel bad about it. And it sure is nice having him around.
firstly, i had to look up “hookah” and then i was like, “oh yeah”. i participated in a group hookah but the content was illegal.
i don’t think there are many hard and fast rules for every child, since they are all different as you know.
my thought is that you are his mom, you’ve seen him grow up and you know your son better than others. with his age, i’m not sure trying to stop him would be a good idea.
it doesn’t mean you cannot share with him your experience with smoking.
I’m giggling at all the ads on Smoking on the sidebar. Sorry. Probably inappropriate, huh?
We’ve shared a clove ciggie and I’m the mother of an older-than-18-year old and I can say that you parent as you go. If you think you made a mistake, you apologize and move on. So for all our parenting woes, just go. Just move on. And take it case by case.
Most importantly, talk with him about it.
I can’t wait to see New House Pics. Hurry up, aiight?
xoxo
When I was little, my parents would give me the black silks from the top of an ear of corn and I would wrap them in tissue paper and literally SMOKE them. My parents thought it was funny. I thought I was smoking………….AND I WAS. We were pure country folks and that was what country folks did. Now, we know better. What you DON’T say speaks as loudly as what you DO.
I see no harm in your son and his hooka. When it’s a pack of cigarettes, and he’s got a carton in the car for emergencies, THEN you’ve got an addicted kid.
You might want to, at least, mention your reservations. It might prove to be a learning experience for the both of you. http://www.danajoywyzard.blogspot.com
You’re the mom, you don’t need to ask us what to do, I say if he’s still alive you’re doing pretty well. Congrats on the new house, I love moving.
I think the hookah is a much better idea than, say, clove cigs. I used to smoke cloves and ended up a brooding theatre major who smelled like a cooked ham.
Hookah smoking is much different than cigarette smoking. Cigarettes are processed differently than hookah tobacco, are made to be addictive, and are so portable that one can smoke just about anywhere, anytime. While portable, hookahs can’t be smoked anywhere or anytime because they require time to set up and once ready to smoke, inspire relaxation and socialization. Cigarettes are for stressed smokers with an addiction; hookahs are for socializing and relaxing.